Saturday, 6 December 2014

SUNDAY READS : Life Update & 3 Things To Do Before the End of 2014

You may have guessed but I've been spending the large majority of 2014 in Hong Kong!

Why? 

Aside from some pressing issues at hand, I'm here to find myself, to do what I've always wanted to do, to get some life experience, to meet new people, to do things that I've never done or even have heard of before...you know, the usual Gen Y reasons for going overseas for an extended period of time. 

I can't say that staying Hong Kong has been a complete culture shock, considering that it's my second home really. I've been lucky enough to have travelled back and forth from Sydney and Hong Kong my entire life. Travelling to Hong Kong has become somewhat of a yearly pilgrimage since I was born. 

But to travel somewhere and to live somewhere other than your home country is actually two different things. 

All of a sudden, it's not so cute to not know how to read Chinese and it's not a great idea to blow a couple of hundred on afternoon tea as a last hurrah. My taxi expenses every year in Hong Kong would scare anyone and everyone. They're just so damn convenient - wave an arm and they zoom right to you. But nowadays, I find myself walking everywhere. I live on top of a mountain - literally and so it's a trek to get up and down. 

Life is a whole lot quieter but I don't think we should ever underestimate what the power of silence can do to us. It forces you to turn inwards and to examine yourself and the world around you. And that's a beautiful skill to cultivate. 

It's the last month of the year and time is running out to tie up loose ends! I feel like I've taken ten steps forward this year but also ten steps back. AHAH.

But here are still three things I want to achieve by the end of this year!
via Vuible


1. Be upfront with others about my goals 
I've never been really upfront about what I want to do in the longterm. Since I was 10, the default answer to what I want to be when I grow up was always a lawyer - preferably a barrister. And sure, that was true for brief periods in my life. I went through some of the motions and found out that, that's not how I want to live my life.

I've always dreamed of a more artistic life - days filled with creative freedom. But that's hard to put into words when the acceptable answer is something more professional and stable. Admittedly, I'm gutless. AHAH.

But this month, I want to be able to tell the truth whenever I am asked where I will go from here. I want to be upfront, even if it shocks the person asking. Even if it isn't too their taste or view of life.

I'm old enough to know that not everyone needs to enjoy the same cup of tea.


2. Have difficult conversations
One of my bad habits is that I have a tendency to avoid conflict. Even as a last resort, I think of ways to minimise the damage. By extension, I tend to avoid difficult conversations.

But in December, I'm going in the deep end and will put myself in the centre of these discussions. I'm going to ask for feedback that will probably hurt my feelings. Similarly, I'm going to fairly give others my piece of mind.


3. Do something I usually wouldn't do
Whenever I do something 'out of my comfort zone', I feel like it's really still within my comfort zone. AHAH. 

So even if it's one tiny thing, I want to truly step out of my comfort zone. Just one tiny thing.


What are you final goals for 2014? 


1 comment:

  1. Awesome post, Valentine! I actually didn't know you were spending so much time in HK - clearly I'm not very observant :/... I definitely agree with your second point about avoiding conflict - that is so me! Best of luck with achieving your new goals; 13 days to go - how are you doing so far?! :D x

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